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While the beginning of those conversations were usually defensive, they typically end in silence and reflection. There are a of reasons why falling in love hurts and none are more right or wrong than the other.
This is why love breaks your heart, even when you're in a happy relationship
With that said, I prefer the Jungian explanation and understanding as it speaks to the soul. For the purposes of this article, I will keep the explanation brief and oversimplified with the hopes that private or public conversation may take over and give way to deeper individual insights and learning. When you fall in love, you fall in love with the ideal woman or man that lives in your inner world, your fantasy.
Now, most people immediately become defensive of their fantasy. The truth is they are simply projecting onto others a type of self-love that only exists in the inner world of our souls.
It is because we are unable to connect to that type of love within ourselves that we look for it outside of us. The outer world has limits that are unable to bear the power of the love we are truly capable of experiencing and creating within ourselves.
In other words, one can only stay in love if the other person allows himself or herself to try and become the person you want them to be or think they should be. If they do that, they must give up who they are and all they can become as an individual, ergo, they die. Their soul and self becomes suffocated and needs to breathe.
When this happens, people fall out of love and experience disillusionment. When people fall out of love they feel hurt, betrayed, etc.
Just think about it. They go from being overtaken by positive emotions and perfection to living in a world where people are inherently imperfect. To be in love is to deny or reject who a person really is in favor of making them who you want them to be; it comes from your ego. On the other hand, loving is a state of being.
Why does love hurt?
It values and connects with the person who is actually there as an entire person, with all of their imperfections, not the fantasy you carry in your mind. Does this mean you should just accept anything? Of course not. What it does mean is that you should not project unrealistic attributes onto others, but instead, see them for who they are. This can only happen if you love yourself and can see your own potential.
It is through self-love that you can connect with someone else who can love you for who you are. Without that level of connection to self, you will spend a hefty amount of time being alone or going from one disappointing relationship to another. The rule of thumb is if you are in love with being in love, you probably need to work on loving yourself first.
1. the uncertainty about the future
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