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5 s he’s not the guy for you
The Bencher has mastered the art of the Mixed al. You were never really together, but maybe you kind of were. At certain points it may have actually felt like the early phases of the real thing, which is why you let it go on for as long as you did.
So give yourself that much credit, you are feeling things because you are human and in some cases, deliberately led on. If anyone asks him about you though, he will have the benefit of plausible deniability, and so will you. Which is convenient given how increasingly small our social circles have become. But between you and me, despite the technicalities, this whole mess of nothing, is actually a little bit of something.
Accept your feelings because even if you were never together, he surely made you feel like you could be. Go feel all the feels without judgment, even from yourself. The sooner you can get it out of your system, hopefully, the sooner you can move on.
Always trust your gut. Sometimes we hope for the best, and sometimes all that pays off. Oftentimes, the Benchee will hint at some level of emotional unavailability.
A lot of girls, myself included, will take this, ignore all the bad bits, and find ways to try and change his mind. We often end up in these situations quite casually, and sometimes by chance. You just get to a point with someone that after spending every weekend together and meeting his entire family, you start to wonder if this could be something more.
10 things i learned about wishy washy guys after being ‘benched’ one too many times
Depending on how gutsy you are, you either talk to the other person or fish for information like crazy. But you soon realize that once the topic of a future comes up, and the other party shuts down or nervously avoids it. A guy who wants you would at this crucial junction step up and wont give you cryptic answers. If you think you can play the game though, then by all means, do so.
But if you think you could break your heart, then be careful. Even non-relationships are hard to get over.
A Bencher is like a vice. So instead of trying to resist temptation, I had to change my mindset and truly realize that I deserved better. And just like that, his subpar antics became quite juvenile and I saw him for what he is. So find out what works for you — be it a gradual weaning off or complete dump — get support, and get it done.
Being a Benchee can leave one feeling inadequate and insecure. We may try to change ourselves thinking it would finally get them to like us back. The right person will cherish us for who we are, flaws and all, and hopefully we can do the same. The back burner is not a pleasant place to be in.
But sometimes being in the slow-moving lane can actually open your eyes to what you DO want. Focused on work, I was content believing love would just serendipitously fall into my lap.
He told me he was wishy-washy: why this should have been a red flag
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You were in a Non-Relationship Relationship, and I think we should officially make that a thing You were never really together, but maybe you kind of were. At the back of our minds, we know we are being benched Always trust your gut. No one likes being the clingy girl, but if you need to clarify the relationship, then by all means, do so We often end up in these situations quite casually, and sometimes by chance.
Know your own worth. Then multiply it by at least a hundred, or a hundred thousand Being a Benchee can leave one feeling inadequate and insecure.
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