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Ben Dillon-Smith and his wife split up when his son, Jethro, was five years old.
They sold their family home in Sydney and agreed on equal t-custody of their son. Nothing against his mum, she is a great mum.
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Forget the finances or the property. It hurts. Partly, they just get easier with time, but you also have to be aware of the problem and be ready for it.
You have to do something to break the habit of falling into a slump because it can be a difficult day. You need space from that person to purge or get pissed off or do whatever you need to do.
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And I also have to show my son the right way to behave. How do we maintain some form of relationship.
My ex was the one that initiated the break up and I assumed there was another guy involved because she got together with someone pretty quickly. So all that was playing on my mind. It takes time. And otherwise it just eats away at you.
He just kept making suggestions on who he thought I should be fucking. It might just be one person, it might a family member — whoever you feel comfortable with.
Adjusting to life as a single father
So a moment might just be taking a bushwalk together and trying to spot whales off the coast. It might be going snorkelling in Vanuatu.
Or it might be cooking his favourite meal followed by watching David Attenborough on TV. When we separated and I moved into my new place, my son started wanting to sleep in my bed again for a while. Yes, it could be annoying to be punched in the head through the night by a five-year- old who also does karate and loves WWE. Dating again after that is strange.
And next to a sedated tiger apparently. And then you try it again.
Your ex will always be in your life (so deal with it)
Then someone suggests Bumble is better, so you get that and then you delete both of them and then get back on them. And then delete them again and just end up with Pornhub. Then I thought this is who I am, this is a huge part of my life and will be for anyone who is interested in me too. But no matter how bad your situation, no matter how much you of a failure you might think you are, your kids still see you as their dad.
That is a starting point. And you might not be able to see your kids as much as other d because of your circumstances.
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But you can work on that over time. You learn that a lot as a single dad. Or his drumsticks. Or soccer gear. That sort of thing can feed into a sense of failure.
1. remember the other parent has a role to play
I did okay. My kid still loves me, I love them.
There are a shit-load of worse off places in the world right now. You can from Ben at his blog: www.
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