In a perfect world, you'd never have to worry about recognizing the s your friends with benefits relationship isn't workingbecause all your romantic endeavors would work out exactly as you'd imagined. But in reality, disentangling the complicated web of emotions surrounding sexlove, and intimacy is not an easy task.
Needless to say, a friends with benefits arrangement doesn't work for everyone. If you want to try it out, though, it's crucial to know the one rule for successfully navigating a FWB relationship : always set boundaries and openly communicate — otherwise things are bound to get messy.
Having friends with benefits is bound to become problematic as a result of uncertainty! Being in a FWB relationship always has the potential to turn into a sticky situation, leaving one person with their feelings hurt.
Your FWB might not be a traditional relationship, but it's a kind of relationship nonetheless, so it's important to talk about your boundaries so neither person ends up hurt or confused. Unfortunately, no matter how well you communicate, there's always a chance you could outgrow your FWB situation.
Here are eight s that your FWB situation isn't actually working out for you anymore — which means it's time to redefine the relationship At its core, a FWB relationship is about two people fulfilling each other's sexual needs, without the emotional strings and parameters of a relationship. If you find yourself no longer sexually satisfied by your FWB, it's OK to "break up" in pursuit of a new partner whether it's a serious relationship or another casual fling.
One something is off in your FWB relationship? If you catch yourself avoiding making plans with your FWB or even breadcrumbing themyou might be better off finding a new relationship — or just taking some time to be totally single. Jealousy is normal in every relationship But if you're in a non-exclusive FWB arrangement and find yourself feeling jealous of your partner's other hookupsthat's a clear that you should end things.
In any relationship — friends with benefits or otherwise — it's important to make sure both people are on the sameand that the boundaries of your relationship are clear. No relationship should ever leave you feeling weak or powerless to your emotions. If you don't feel in control of your feelings re: your FWB, it might be best to cut the cord and find a relationship that better suits your needs.
TBH, I hate the whole "I don't catch feelings" thing: we're all human, and we all have feelings. It's totally normal to develop romantic feelings for someone after having sex, but if your FWB isn't on the samethat can lead to serious heartbreak. Don't get me wrong: it's OK to text your FWB when you're apart and ask what they're up to just like you would with your friends without benefits.
But if you cross the line into paranoia and find yourself checking up on them on social media or IRLthat might mean you're secretly unhappy with the non-exclusive status of your relationship. Even if you're "happy" just to have sex and hang out with your FWB, you might also secretly fantasize about your FWB blossoming into a real, long-term, exclusive relationship.
Ultimately, the only way to know if your FWB isn't working for you is to honestly reflect on your feelings, and ask yourself if you're really happy and fulfilled, or merely complacent in your current situation. Friends with benefits might be tricky to navigate, but don't be discouraged: it's absolutely possible for a FWB relationship to workso long as both partners are communicative, mature, and respectful. By Laken Howard.